It is amazing how you can change or influence a situation by your tone or tweek in a few simple words. I've always claimed to be "realistic" in my pessimistic under-tone, but I've realized this year it is actually quite draining for myself and those around me. I think I've always migrated towards a negative tone in an effort to prepare myself and others for the worst case scenario so that I can be happily surprised with the much-less-depressing outcome. That, however, is a big flaw. I don't think it is good to be so negative most of the time, and I hadn't even realized I was doing it.
I can't think of a good example at the moment, but I noticed a big difference when my boyfriend started saying "POSITIVITY!" to anyone who had a negative connotation in a conversation. I realized I was doing it more often then not. Since then, I've noticed other people who do the same thing and it is quite depressing. I have kind of hopped the train by pointing out "I like the positivity" in conversations where it is warranted, in hopes of the other party thinking "you're right". I have noticed it sets a better tone and mood in general.
This "positivity" rant comes on behalf of my participation in the #30daysofthanks hashtag on Instagram. I don't usually participate in those kinds of events, but I made an exception throughout November to show my thanks. I set a reminder every day to post a picture with a few words why I was thankful for that item, which is kind of sad when you think about it (not being able to remember to give thanks). Some days I would be excited to put up my daily thanks and some days, my alarm would come and go without a minute to show my thanks. (I think that only happened twice & I started on Nov. 2nd.) It was very refreshing to take that timeout each day, pick something I was thankful for, and explain to my viewers why. Sometimes, I would interrupt whatever I was doing to take the time for my #30daysofthanks and it would put me in a completely different mindset when I was done. It was very hard to limit myself to 30 things. About half way through the month I had to sit down and write what my plan was for the rest of the month because I had some key things I didn't want to leave out. I do feel guilty now for everything I didn't get to, but understand, I only had 30 days.
Long story short, it's healthy to give thanks every day.
"Give thanks unto the Lord, for he is good, and his mercy endures forever." Psalm 136