Friday, August 9, 2013

Talk.

There is no lack of excitement to be had in this world. You sometimes have to find it but it most often finds me.

This post is finding its way to you through a very exasperated Berea. People astound me.

I learned a very long time ago how different each and every one of us humans are yet something is still inhibiting us from learning "best practices" from one another. Call it asininity or stubbornness or what have you, but I think there is something to learn from everyone.

In the manufacturing industry for those of you not familiar, we have what we call "industry best practices". For example, in all manufacturing plants, incoming material is somehow received and distributed to the workers to make something. You would be surprised at the difficulty of doing something so simple, right? Receive, distribute. Well, sometimes the suppliers don't deliver when they said or something gets lost or a person is sick or a part comes damaged etc etc. So an industry best practice would be something like receiving all material in 24 hours and having it all stocked/organized in 48. It is kind of like, when you need an idea on the best way to do a process, what are other companies/factories doing that has proven to work well in similar situations?

Well, I am speaking in the context of communication particularly and the inability of people to communicate. I am going to split communication into the kind you do in your personal life and the kind you do at work and the types which boil down to; talking on the phone, texting, and emailing (or some form of any of these).

It is your responsibility, when you know a piece of information useful to others, to COMMUNICATE it. Just talk.

So I am learning that people are bad at communication and there is something I can do to combat this problem, but it's not easy. Most often, if you ask the right questions, you get the right answers, however, the questions are not black and white and if you miss asking a question, plans fail and people get angry.

I feel like this is all common sense and I don't want to go into details but perhaps that is why I am good at my job?


Saturday, August 3, 2013

Feminism

Here we go......

I am traveling, so I have had some time to read the news, learn more about what is going on in Detroit, play angry birds, and do some deep thinking. Today's topic: feminism. 

First of all, I am going to mention today is my 23rd birthday. Chances are if I saw you in person you would have one of two responses; "Berea-you're so young" or "wow-I feel old" if you are younger than me, you probably don't care. I do not look forward to the day when that changes and people stop telling me I'm young. 

So in having some free time, I went blog surfing. The first 10 or so blogs were either about some sport I'm not interested in or hadn't been updated in 3 years. I finally stumbled on one that struck my interest so I read the most recent post: A Continually Changing Perspective. In short, it was a post about a young woman, in her late 20's I gathered, in the Peace Corps who is/was in Jamaica and dealing with the unfamiliar and blatant attention from the men. It began turning my internal gears. 

That's not just a Jamaican thing or a foreign thing and this isn't meant to be a "I hate men" post, but inappropriate actions exist in our culture as well. I don't know if I first realized it in Buffalo Oklahoma, Boulder Colorado, LA, MSOE, or the list continues......just this morning on the streets of Baltimore, a truck honked at me. 

I am not sure what the purpose is or what they expect, but it is not welcomed. They get nothing out of it and I get nothing but annoyed. I think America has a bigger sexist issue than racist issue but we have a lot of problems and that was a powerful statement...

I don't know which is worse, men who set the stereotype or women who reinforce it. I love nothing more than being a young female engineer. I finally have a conversation piece to make people (men) speechless. I am no better than you are better than me regardless of my sex or skin color. 

Think about blind people. Granted accents and tone come in to play, but they can't judge on physical features like people with sight can.

Friday, August 2, 2013

External Happiness

I was recently reading an article titled "The Top 10 things Happy People Don't Do."  I'd link it, but I don't remember where I found it. Anyways, I'd like to think of myself as happy but wanted to read the list to see what I'm missing. It's not a surprise that on the list, happy people don't look for happiness externally.

My weakness: relying on others to make me happy.
My strength: empathizing with the feelings of those around me.

It's another work in process. I'm a big girl. I can make my own decisions. I can do what would make ME happy, but I think it's a greater happiness finding people who share the same ideas about happiness. I can go get lobster and steak when I want, but when my boyfriend asks to take me, that's way more special, exciting, and happy. I can clean the house myself to be stress-free and happy, or my roommate can clean up after herself and I'll be happy from the start. I think my problem is having expectations of others making me happy. I've learned that those people that frustrate me won't be in my close friend circle but I need to realize I shouldn't let those frustrations guide my happiness.

Problem is I care. It's how I was raised and I don't want to change that. However, caring people can be happy so clearly I have a disconnect....

Does it matter as long as you are making God happy?

I know that there is nothing better for people than to be happy and to do good while they live. That each of them may eat and drink, and find satisfaction in all their toil—this is the gift of God. 

Ecclesiastes 3:12-13